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What Is It About Date Night?

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Date night is suppose to be exciting and full of fun. Thrilling to say the less for those who enjoy adventure.

I have always been a little iffy about going on dates because… well it was always a struggle trying to find something to wear, or doing my hair, or trying to find comfortable shoes.

I would find everything to complain about.

I have been married for almost 20 years so it’s not like my date is unaware of my physical appearance. But, for some reason my comfort levels were never there.

I was always worried about looking wrong or off to other people. My anxiety and worries about my appearance or the thoughts of something going wrong always predetermined my feelings towards date night events.

Covid

Covid 19 threw a real wrench in everything. After the quarantine caused a major shut down over the entire world, we had to figure out when and how to make date night happen.

It was important because I had just had surgery and we were in the midst of repairing our marriage. Surgery had me feeling confused about everything going on with my body.

All of the precautions the doctor gave me for walking, driving, and eating had me stuck. I got use to being a homebody, I mean it’s not like I went out a lot anyway.

This whole Covid era is crazy.

I have had a hard time adjusting to this because I am very picky about Covid and germs especially after working in the hospital. You have to be so cautious these days, everyone is not on the same page about health and safety as you are.

Date Nights 2021

Now that the world has opened back up again, of course the hubbs suggested date nights should resume regularly. I have been trying to avoid date night by all means possible because I’m freaked out by the corona virus. I mean “What Is It about Date Night?”.

The hubbs planned a date day for us. He made sure to check the time so there would not be a lot of people there.

I was in a full blown panic, “What If I catch Covid?”, it was literally all I could think about. The way my anxiety is set up I knew “no” was the only answer coming out.

I had to evaluate myself and my feelings towards the whole Covid thing. I had to remember that this was part of bettering myself, coming out of the box, doing things different and improving my marriage.

Dave & Busters

So, 3 years ago was the last time I played this game called Hot Shot Basketball. The endurance needed for that game is ridiculous especially when you are 270 pounds.

After playing this game I would be totally wiped out. The amount of energy exerted is wild. Winning or losing that game would kick my butt.

Since we were returning to Dave and Buster’s I said why not. It was REMATCH TIME! Now was time to see how well the bariatric surgery has increased my activity stamina.

I had an AMAZING TIME!! I played HOT SHOT amongst many other games and didn’t feel defeated or drained. It’s the small things that make the biggest difference. Watching myself play, interact and be involved with my husband is a wonderful experience.

Since having VSG I have had an increase in my overall health. In my ability to play, laugh, dance and feel great. All pros to having bariatric surgery. Longevity added to my lifespan has been the highlight of this entire process.

I look forward to having more date nights. It felt so refreshing to get out the house…I won’t lie.

Of course I documented my entire night. I have to keep track of everything, every accomplishment, every victory.

These leggeings make an outfit themselves

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These leggings would’ve made a cute outfit all by themselves.

Don’t worry about that emoji…ya’ll just here for the transformation

Mind ya business, I was in my basketball player zone

So crazy I was like 10pounds heavier in the photo on the left at the time I took this photo. 90pounds

Let Your Light Shine

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Let Your Light Shine so brightly that others can see their way out of the dark

I want to be the best inspiration I can be to others on the same journey. It’s a challenging road to travel but I’m proof that you can do it.

12 months 3 weeks 3 days post #verticalsleevegastrecomy

270 180b 90 pounds

I love me some meeeeeeeeee

Nobody ever talks about the scars

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Scar Update

After surgery YOU WILLL HAVE THEM. My procedure was laparoscopic, so I was left with 5 small puncture marks and 1 larger one (the hole they pulled the stomach through). When I came home I had bruising and everything. I had a stitch that did not dissolve so I pulled it out (with approval) and it didn’t hurt. It was preventing my healing process. They have healed up pretty good. No more pain or irritation. I am however looking for a scar cream that will fade the color a little so they are more even with my tone.

I heard Maderma oil works great. I should be giving that a try.

It’s A Birthday Celebration!

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I promised myself this year would be different.

The only person i need to compare myself to is my yesterday self

90lbs

Last year for my birthday I was recovering from surgery. I was only able to eat soft foods and I was very restricted with movement and everything.
I promised myself this birthday would be one for the records.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MEEEEE

Officially 90lbs

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Here’s to 36

One year later….I’m a whole snack in these streets

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Beautiful are those whose Brokeness gives birth to transformation and wisdom

January 2019 vs February 2020

I remember this day like it was yesterday. These photos were the morning before surgery. We had just parked the car and was getting ready to walk towards the hospital doors when I looked at my husband and I said “alright, take a picture. This is gonna be my last fat girl picture.”

I was smiling on the outside but fear was slowly taking over me internally.

I walked into those doors and did not look back. Standing there to check in was one of the most emotionally filled moments of my life. I felt everything a person could feel in that moment. But, fear was the biggest feeling of them all. I promised myself “If I wake up from this surgery, LIFE WILL BE DIFFERENT! I WILL BE DIFFERENT.”

I was so scared about going into the surgical area. I had butterflies throughout my whole body.

One year later….I’m a whole snack in these streets

My confidence is through the roof

Energy like crazy

Smiles are as real and bright as the sun

Laughter happens daily

Self love and self care is amazing

Life is freedom

I gave myself another chance at life and let me tell you, it was totally worth it. I feel so crazy sometimes thinking about how much of a big deal I made just thinking of VSG but I’m so glad I came to my senses. Best gift I could’ve ever give myself.