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The Great Bra Struggles

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Cons of Bariatric Surgery….It’s always something 🤷🏽‍♀️

Just when we thought we were getting rid of one issue, bariatric surgery brought a whole new one. LOL.

I was getting ready to go out on a date and I had to stop and notice the difference in my bras. My breast were massive. When I look at the cup difference I’m just in shock that I carried the weight of those humongous jugs for so long.

I was always a part of the “itty bitty titty committee”.

Pre pregnancy I was able to fill out a C cup but I wore a B cup regularly. I didn’t get larger breasts until pregnancy, after the kids started coming it was a wrap.

Prior to VSG my largest bra cup size was a EEE. Before surgery I was squeezing into a 44 – 46 DDD.

I have always struggled with bras ALWAYS. My breasts were very dense and heavy. Pregnancy made it worse because my breasts would inflate and deflate depending on what was going on at the time. I’ll tell you one thing though… breastfeeding had me looking like a pin up. LOL

The thing about big breasts is that everybody wants them until you actually get them. Because of the weight of my boobs (I’m going to keep using boobs from here on out) I had serious back issues.

I would always be in pain in my lower back. My bra straps would leave deep indentations on my shoulders because the support was never good enough. I wore 2 bras every day for over 2 years just to be comfortable at work. I had major shoulder pain and muscles tightness from the daily life of having large and heavy boobs. It was crazy!

After having my gastric sleeve, I noticed a change in my boobs but it wasn’t a huge change. When I really noticed that my boobs had gone to shit was when I had to stuff a push up bra with socks. One that I had previously overflowed. Read about it HERE . My boobs literally looked like they were caving in. LMAO. I was about 14 months post op.

So of course my first mindset was… its time to get new bras. Then I went to measure and realized I have to account for loose skin. It’s very hard to find bras that give you everything you need on the regular, when you have had a major weight loss surgery.

It causes drastic changes so rapidly, one week you’re one size the next week it’s falling off. The first set of new bras I bought lasted all but 3 weeks before I was on the bra hunt again.

Sports bras are always a life saver but sports bras don’t go with everything. They are perfect for at home and on the go comfort.

I have had to try all types of bras wire, no wire, small cup, large cup, skinny straps, thick straps, printed and patterned bras, maternity, plus size, cheap, expensive, minimizers, t-shirt bras you name it.

Right now I’m bouncing around cup sizes trying to see what fits the best. I’ve been sticking around 34 – 36 DDD. But, I think I need a DD cup…it’s the side boob fat…bruh it’s killing meeeeeeeee. My boobs are more full at the bottom, so I love push ups because well….they push everything UP!

I haven’t owned a push up bra since I was a teenager. But thanks to VSG I have a new reason to buy some. LOL.

I’m currently 2 years post op and I haven’t decided when I want to get plastics done so I have to keep fighting this bra battle until I find a great intimate’s line to hold these girls up.

I’ll keep you posted.

Simple, Sexy, Sleek…VSG Fashion 2 Years Post Op

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VSG Fashion for a night out on the town, Let’s hit the streets…

My favorite part of this outing was getting ready. My outfit was simple but stylish…something I never thought I would be able to do. I had recently changed my hair color, so I was feeling all spicy and stuff.

This was my first time wearing a hat as an accessory on purpose and for good reason. LOL! I was able to purchase my first fedora hat from Amazon and it cost me like 16 bucks.

Tonight started off with me wearing an off-shoulder sweater top by Fashion Nova. I go to put the damn sweater on, and the arm sleeve literally split in half at the seam. Sometimes Fashion Nova clothes be pissing me off because you get like 1 good wear out of some of there pieces, store it, take it back out, then boom your shit is ruined.

SMH…anyway.

I did not have time to sew it back together, so I had to go into my closet. Last year my husband purchased this black leather shirt by J.Lo. I had absolutely no reason to wear it, and I didn’t even know how to style it.  Well tonight that was top choice.

I was so frustrated because I actually take time putting my outfits together now. I get throwed off sometimes when things go wrong with my outfit selection. Especially if I’m in a rush.

I decided to pair the top with a set of my cotton lined fleece leggings I purchased from Rainbow for like $5. I’m usually not a color person but since having VSG all I want to do is express myself through color.

The color of choice tonight was emerald green. It matched my hair, my makeup, and gave a very sleek look.

My ankle booties were also purchased from Amazon…that’s where I have been getting a lot of my shoes lately. There and a shoe store in McDonough , GA called Shoe Show. They have really hot and eccentric styles. I wrote about them in another article “Let’s Ditch the leggings”.

During the fall season here in Georgia, you can need a jacket on any random night. Once the sun goes down you need a jacket with anything you put on to be honest.

My bubble jacket is an oldie but goodie, it never fails me. I don’t even know where I purchased the thing from. It was literally the only bubble jacket I’ve owned. LMAO When I was 95 pounds heavier the jacket was always so snug and fitted. Now it’s super big but I can do that whole wrap around effect thing when people get cold. It keeps me warm for sure.

My favorite part is when I get halfway dressed usually at this point it’s only accessories, makeup touch up and hair. I pull out the camera the moment I say “girl you fine, fine”.  Do a whole 50 pic photo shoot then finish getting dressed. Another photo shoot usually follows right behind “Ok, I’m finished… lets go y’all”. 

My brother usually gets my angles, he’s teaching me how to work the camera and the mirror. I never cared from before because I wasn’t happy with myself, but now I am. I love myself so much and I enjoy every moment of exploring this new me. I photograph and document all things my life.

After it was all said and done my sexy sleek let’s hit the streets was in full effect! And off to The Vortex Bar & Grill for date night. (You can find that story here Orgy for your Tastebuds)

Outfit Details Below:

Fedora from AMAZON

Accessories from Rainbow Shops

¾ Leather Shirt by JLO  Rainbow Shops

Fleece Lined Leggings Rainbow Shops

Chunky Platform Ankle Boots AMAZON

Hair by Me

“An orgy for your tastebuds”…they were not lying!

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Review: The Vortex Bar & Grill (Midtown)

Rating: 5 out of 5.

Don’t you hate it when you eat something that’s so good?!

We went to The Vortex Bar & Grill in Midtown. This place has such a great vibe, the atmosphere, the people, and the food omg.

The parking sucks, but it’s downtown so it’s expected. We only walked like 5 mins and my feet weren’t hurting so that was great.

On first sight I was like what kind of crazy ass place did this boy bring us to?!  I see skulls, weird statues and sh!t. Once we got in, they were on a whole vibe.

We were seated rather quickly, the staff was great and quite helpful when it came down to the menu and making selections.

Of course, we started with shots the moment we sat down.

I get really big eyed when somebody mentions shots because if I ingest the right thing I am one and done okay. LMAO! My brother asked the waitress “what drinks are your most popular?”

This waitress said y’all should try the $3 shots of mystery (and get this they don’t tell you what’s in it) My brother was all like “yes we’ll take that” before she even finished explaining this secret shot. Then we ordered a round of cocktails afterwards.

I was like “oh lordy, I’m done for”.

Our Menu Selections

The hubbs had the ATLien it was a coconut rum-based drink. He thought it tasted pretty good. He said it was great if you like your drinks fruity and strong. I usually love my drinks strong and fruity but since surgery ½ shot and I’m good, 2 shots and there goes my memory. My new tolerance never kills the fun, the buzz comes quick and leaves just a quick.

We checked out this menu and EVERYTHING sounded good. I still follow a drink and eat waiting period, I don’t usually order a lot of food if I start with shots or any drinks. I give myself 30 mins in between eating and/or drinking. If I try to eat without giving myself time, I go into these indigestion spells where I burp uncontrollably. It’s super annoying.

We ordered the MAC ‘N’ CHEESY-CHANGA.

Listen to me…..that thang was so good. It is basically a deep-fried burrito stuffed with mac n cheese and pulled pork. It was so soft. (stage 3 soft foods) The flavor was so on point. No flavor overpowered the other, the balance was awesome. The cheese sauce was so rich and blended right into the BBQ sauce. YUM!! I wanted to order another menu item, but I was stuffed ½ way into my second piece.

My brother ended up ordering a burger with an egg on it and a side of fries. They were so good, crispy on the edges and soft in the middle. OMG!

Pay attention to yourself…

I enjoy ordering foods that are not hard to digest. I’ve learned it’s better to play as nice as you can with your new stomach taking into account that you may have to make adjustments when you eat.

I don’t take well to beef anymore. It makes me full super fast and I always feel constipated after I eat beef. I always try to opt out the beef with varieties of turkey, chicken, sea food and certain vegan meats.

I try to go for the highest protein rich meat available.

Everyone may not have to adjust their food. I don’t like feeling sick after I eat and I noticed that only happens when I eat certain things. I have also had to scale back on pastas and rice as well.

5 star rating for everything from atmosphere, to menu options, staff, vibe, décor and more. All in all it was a great experience. We definitely plan to go back again. 

Where are the bariatric friendly food experiences in Atlanta?

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These experiences are everywhere as long as you know how to eat.

I created a whole food segment with the mindset that just because you had or are having bariatric surgery doesn’t mean you still can’t eat good and enjoy yourself with a night on the town. Good grub ain’t never hurt nobody. You just have to take it easy.

I was super excited to get up here and get a real good feel of ATL. I only imagined that life would be just as exciting as in Miami. The first year was a little much because of the whole Covid and quarantining thing. We had not gotten the chance to really experience much of the cuisine, or city life.

I didn’t want to lose the ability to enjoy dining out and living life. One of my goals was to experience as much life as I could after going through this life transformation. To do all the things I wanted to do but couldn’t because of my weight issues.

I have always been a foodie. LOL, with all kinds of food too not just fatty ones and sugary ones, but healthy foods, island food, international foods etc.

I love to eat, I love to cook, I love the camaraderie and memories that come when family and/or friends gather together. I am a mother of 4 picky eaters who love to eat good, so I have to practice my skill inside the kitchen as well as out.

I know that my food journey will be something I have to continue and practice for the rest of my life. I also know that I want to still enjoy that journey. Sometimes I might binge on some ice cream. somedays I might want a vegan burger, other days I might want a protein shake, and sometimes I might want a few fries.

The way I see it is…as long as I pay attention to when my body is full, I will be okay. As long as I stick to my 30 minute wait rule between eating and drinking, I will be okay. I always try to remember not to over indulge.

I was told by my surgeon that my new stomach size was 4 oz at capacity. when I think of how small that is I realize that I can’t over eat even if I wanted to. I would be puking before I hit the restroom.

What made me want to create a food segment?

Moving to Atlanta we knew there would be so much culture, life, and history to experience. I didn’t want to skip a beat. So when my husband decided to start working for Uber, we begin to visit a lot of restaurants across Metro Atlanta. From Locust Grove all the way to Marietta. We were visiting a lot of places. Some of the food smelled heavenly while others smelled horrid. Either way we wanted to try some of these places to see what the hype was about.

We all love getting out and having a good time. My husband and I have no social life…..I’m a covid and germ freak especially since working in the hospital. So, I have made it very difficult to start the process of stepping back onto the social scene. (I’m not gonna lie)

I was able to convince my brother and my husband (mainly myself) to have an outing at least biweekly. We all work insane schedules between work, family, and school; it is crazy difficult to get some actual adulting time in.

But, we’ve started with my brother as the spear header and have been having a great time. My brother has lived in Atlanta for a while now so he’s more aware of the hot spots and lit places. Plus, he created this list of things to do and places to go in Atlanta so we started with that. I really look forward to our outings though. It’s literally the only time I get to get all cute and done up.

Here’s the problem with the eating out thing…

The greatest challenge is my food intake of course. To really enjoy my dining experience, I must go in with the motto “A little goes a long way”. I always order way more than I can eat, but some places have large portions with no smaller choices available. Depending on the restaurant if I can’t make up my mind I order options, which means most of the time we take home leftovers.

Although I don’t drink a lot, going out for drinks is a much easier process. I gained control of the liquor method after my first 2 drinks following recovery. My first drink was around 6 months and then not again until after my 1 year surgeversary. 

I got my VSG surgery the same year we relocated to Georgia. No, it was not the plan but it was just where life took me. I was 6 months post op when we finally moved up.

It wasn’t until recently that we started making time to get out.

I need to remain as normal as possible

One of my biggest worries when I got VSG, was how much my life would change. Especially when it came down to my food and my well-being. Eventually after recovery I wanted to be able to return to eating and experiencing everything I love plus more. I didn’t want to lose anything but fat and bad habits.

Challenges are something I expect to run into for the rest of my life because of my weight loss surgery. That’s not to say that all challenges are bad. I’ve found that challenges no matter the state make me better as a person.

Trial and Error is a must

My trials and errors with food started very early on into my recovery. The dislike for all things sweet and sugary was on super strong. By the time I hit full liquids I was in such a state of despair I felt like the livelihood of my stomach had met its ending. And this was only about 2.5 weeks post op.

About a month post op I got permission to return to normal foods as tolerated. It was the as tolerated part that got me.

I had to learn what my body could tolerate and how much it could tolerate. I had to retrain myself on my body’s physical ways of telling me I’m hungry or full. I had to start PAYING ATTENTION TO MYSELF. I still have days when I eat something that’s so good I’m like “just one more bite!” then my intestines start biting me in the ass literally.

I know I’m not the only girl/person trying to maintain my sanity and navigate life after bariatric surgery. I figured why not review and share all these Atlanta experiences for my fellow bariatric folks.

Don’t limit yourself…..adjust!  Let’s Review Atlanta.

Let’s Ditch the Leggings

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I accidentally put this little number together. We were going to an engagement party and of course I wanted to be cute. It was the start of fall, the weather was nice, why not? So originally we were supposed to wear teal and silver.

I couldn’t find the right outfit to speak to me. I was aiming for a natural sexy fall glam. So I decided to raid my closet and pull out all my fall attire. Wasn’t much because I had just started purchasing new clothes

I was at the height of my wight loss around Fall Season last year. I had just joined onederland and I was all about new things. That same time was when I jumped on the Fashion Nova bandwagon and purchased my first few fall items.

The sweater dress was my favorite piece last season. I bought three different ones.

The first time I wore this sweater I paired it with leggings.

Anyhow, once I got everything laid out, I quickly started to eliminate things. I decided to change the color because I figured the couple would be wearing the theme colors and I didn’t want cause any confusion with the bride to be.

I picked the rust color because of course it’s a top-rated fall color.

Next comes the shoes. I’m going crazy trying figure out what shoe style would fit the occasion best. I needed a shoe that would set the mood of the outfit just right.

I recalled I had purchased these faux snakes’ skin printed boots with my husband. They had been sitting in my closet for about a year. They boots were a great match. I had recently braided my hair and changed the color to blue. The blue in my hair and in the shoes were a perfect match. After paring it with a few gold accessories and handbag, I was ready.

I felt amazing. The outfit was very risky, for me.

Outfit Details:

Don’t Cut Me Off Sweater Fashion Nova

Multicolor Faux Snake Print Thigh High Boots

There is another version of the shoe that I found at

SHEIN

All of my accesories

Rainbow Shops

Round Clutch Handbag

Support Is Key With Bariatric Surgery

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Going through something like bariatric surgery really affects you internally. Before going through with it, make sure you have a good team or person behind you. I have a girlfriend who has been through this entire journey with me before and after VSG. We have a lot in common and that’s probably why we’ve been friends for so long.

We have various similarities like our food choices, how we used food to cope with emotions and stress, our thought processes are similar, so it’s nice to have a person besides my husband who understands.

For me it was great to have a person I could vent to about any and everything. She was the one I called when I had a mental breakdown during the liquid phase of my diet.

My doctor and therapist warned me about the mental aspects of the diet but they didn’t really go through how deeply this surgery affects even your thought process once food is taken away from you.

The Breakdown

I had hit rock bottom with the liquid diet and I was so over the protein shakes and the yogurts. I craved salt and savory foods. But I didn’t have enough knowledge on the food recipes to get through every phase. I mean sure they give you a list of foods you can and can not have but no meal ideas to put together. If you don’t research these things prior to surgery then you fall into a whirlwind of repeat food and it’s so aggravating.

I went off on my husband because he couldn’t figure out what I wanted to eat. I know it sounds crazy.

He kept asking me “what did I want to eat?”

I was unsure because I was totally over everything in my refrigerator.

So I made him choose.

He must have gone through 3 or 4 different options. Broth, yogurt, Jell-O, protein shakes, protein yogurt everything was sweet.

Nope, nope, nope, nope…..

I exploded.

Realizing the Issue

I told him “he didn’t care about me”, and that “he wanted me to be hungry”. I blamed him for being in pain. I called him a bad caretaker, I was an emotional wreck. None of it was true but I was reacting off hunger emotions, stress and depression. I couldn’t think straight because I couldn’t satisfy the craving I was having for food.

I felt like he wasn’t doing a good enough job with helping me. Even though he had nothing to do with why I was feeling so angry, confused and hurt.

My girlfriend talked me through why I felt the way I did and I came to realize I was HANGRY. The lack of food choices, mixed with the inability to help myself, and the pressures of dealing with all the stress without packing down donuts or cookies to cope with the changes was killing me.

It was breaking me down because I couldn’t understand what was happening to me. Having her there to go through that situation with me was easier to handle BECAUSE I had someone to talk to. Someone other than the person I had just went off on.

After she and I talked, I realized that I had treated my husband horribly. All he did was try to help me. He was there, he supported me, and took my brutality while I processed my everything. I couldn’t have been more grateful for the time he took to make sure that I was okay.

I didn’t realize how insane I would become just because I couldn’t eat. It’s not like it happened a lot either. But, it was during that time I understood that although food was not my main problem with my overall health it was still a problem nonetheless.

This particular situation with my husband and how I felt about my entire recovery during the liquid phase really kickstarted my mental health evaluation.

If it wasn’t for the two of them I don’t know where I would be mentally with my recovery.

I often hear people talk about how they have gone through the surgery and have difficulty with recovery because they don’t have support or they are surprised at how many people turn their back on you during a time of need like this.

My suggestion, get a therapist. If you don’t have anyone or find yourself struggling especially mentally seek a specialist, find a support group and just vent. Don’t sit in a cloud of confusion and depression because you feel some type of way.

You will never improve if you don’t fix you first.